To me, the pertinent question is why does she want to take something from you that love to do? Is she feeling left out? If so, include her in on it. Is she just a manipulative b1tc#? If so, dump her.  When I first started dating my wife, I was all set to move to another (warmer) city. The deal we agreed to was to someday live on a lake if we stayed together. When we found the lot, I had sticker shock. She said "if you don't do this, you'll be kicking yourself for the next 10 years." She was right and so the next day we put in an offer. 10 years later, we're still there and loving it - our kids do, too.  My point is there's someone that understands what (also) is important to me and doesn't want to be the controlling, nagging spouse. That's just one of the reasons I married her. Now if she could only drive the boat the way I want....