Like I said near the top, I think there are two key questions for a potential crossover owner, and one of them is whether or not a vDrive layout is a dealbreaker for you. The other is how you prioritize your towed sports.
@swc5150 many people's idea of a great day is having a crew of friends and family in the boat, cruising around the lake, swimming, taking kids tubing, wakeboarding or teaching guests how to ski, etc. There's little question that vDrives provide way better seating/layout for that kind of fun on the water. They do come at a cost, however, particularly for slalom skiers, and particularly for slower-speed skiers. Your wife's complaint is usually quite a bit lower on the list, but then again, many wakeboard vDrives now feature easier walkovers to the swim deck (checkout any modern Nautique G series boat).
For those who care about slalom, and this forum is for people who do, then you're probably not doing most of your skiing with 7-10 people in the boat. Those who prioritize slalom, have a kid (or crewmember) or two who like to wakeboard will probably do best with a larger DD with a wake system (like Malibu Wedge, Tigé TAPS, etc.). Those who spend a lot of time cruising with a large crew, or who prioritize wakesurfing, will probably do best with one of the more skiable vDrives, emptying the boat and maybe putting a bit of weight in the front for their occasional slalom runs.