After many years of angst, I have finally decided that my job as a parent is to just support my kids in whatever they want to do. We live in an extremely competitive school district for both academics and athletics and I have seen the damage that can be inflicted by parents who push their kids towards a particular sport or interest.
Ultimately the kid must want to do the activity and while as parents we can try to set up a structure for success – we cannot force our kids to love a sport and/or achieve. They must come to that conclusion and passion for something by themselves.
As the father of 3 kids – currently 21, 18 and 16 - the pain of my kids not caring about tournament skiing was a problem for me for a long time. This was especially hard when my kids were younger, and I had to make the decision whether to attend a tournament by myself OR spend valuable time that weekend with my family.
I own a lot at a private lake but live on a public lake (Lake Austin). All three of my kids can competently trick, slalom, and surf, however, they could not care a lick about competing. BUT this year my kids have put almost 300 hours on my surf boat. At the end of the day my kids love the water, are very competent and safe boat drivers, and most importantly are great people.
For me - that is complete victory.